You've honed the suitable methodology. I like how you approach helping from the paid consulting angle and everyday intrapersonal involvement. I’d venture your advice includes all things in existence. I found the best consultants incorporate a mix of telling their clients what they want to hear (subtle praise) to help them listen to what they need to consider. After all, even if they are paying to be critiqued, it's best not to dictate. On the purely intrapersonal front, it works the same way. Perhaps it's a mindset governed by trying not to allow or cause harm by being an ambassador (or physician) of goodwill. I can let people make their mistakes if I sense no immediate harm due to their behavior.