I truly dislike gatherings where I know someone is going to be an asshole. Stepfather, brother-in-law, etc. ‘it's always something — if it’s not one thing, it's another.’ Rosanne Roseannadana used to say. As I grew older, my patience for their typical behavior waned. With family, they know me as the enforcer by way of brutality honest intervention. In work related situations I choose to keep my distance when it comes having abusive personalities at social events. Thank goodness I can choose my friends.