A man might be more shallow than anything. So can a woman. But, it doesn't have to be. He might engage a women in what interests her. Maybe they find mutual respect or they don't gel, but at least he's not being shallow by not trying. Or they do gel as a man and woman but are shallow in regard to the rest of nature. I try to accept myself. When I do (and it's rarer than I like) shallowness has no meaning. I radiate and everything falls into place. It's nice to have someone to do that with.